This is an invitation to common sense, and to the greater burden of understanding how to live together in a country like Nigeria where little things matter. Life is actually about little things.
If you are a Muslim, your pain to understand those who are not Muslims is more in this matter.
If you are a Christian and you think that Muslims criticising Aisha’s dress are wrong, you are the one who is wrong, not because you have no business in the discourse but because you probably do not know how Islam ask Muslims to dress.
Indeed, Aisha’s home ( Alh. Umaru Ndanusa) is a Muslim home. Now, what I am not sure of is if Aisha is still a Muslim. If she is a Muslim, those dresses are not the way of Muslims and Muslims have the right to complain about them. At that point, your duty as a Christian is to seek explanation as to how wrong they are on a Muslim’s neck. If she is a Christian, Muslims have no right to complain. And their duty would be to continue with the business of living together in a mixed society like Nigeria.
The hypocrisy of all our complaints reside in the fact that before Aisha’s case, Muslims have lived and transacted businesses with Christians whose dresses are worse than Aisha’s, perhaps, because those people didn’t call themselves Muslims. Also, Christians have lived successfully with Muslims putting on what could pass for deep Islamic dresses without qualms. Any muslim who says Aisha’s dressing is not wrong is only being hypocritical. Allah says hypocrites exist among Muslims. He warned that they are terrible to be with. They can conjure misleading thesis to cause confusion. Muslims take their injunctions from the Qur’an and Hadith plus conclusions from their scholars, only.
Some of us who are Muslims know that Christianity forbids dressing that reveals the crevices of a woman; we know that Christianity promotes decency in dressing. Once upon a Sunday morning at ABU, behind Ribadu hall(girls hostel), a girl in her fullness of life was walking past, ahead of us to a church within the campus. Suddenly, we started hearing shouts and boos from atop the hostel: ‘ashawo, seducer, sit not in front…’ some Christian girls booed the badly dressed girl with a Bible in hand…instead of being remorseful, she stopped and began shaking her buttocks in the direction of her accusers. ‘you don’t have this’, she replied. A Christian friend from Gombe who was with me simply concluded: ‘wancan yar wuta ce’.
So, both Islam and Christianity, I know, preache decency in dressing. Perhaps, more than proclamation, Islam has gone further to describe the ways in which men and women should dress. Therefore, if any Christian must reach a conclusion on this matter, he must have the knowledge of how Islam prescribes her dress code. It doesn’t have to be like Arabs. It could be a Nupe or Igbo or Idoma type of dressing but it has to be according to Islamic specification. A person’s first responsibility to a group is to observe her codes.
Muslims who seek to correct any deviations must apply wisdom, diplomacy and persuasion either to a differing Muslims or a Christian needing education about what they know not in Islam. That’s how the prophet of Islam did it. In fact, Christians are not the problem of Muslims in this matter but Muslims who know the truth and are pretending that her dressing is correct.
On the whole, the major problem is that Muslims think Islam is theirs only, when Allah says it is a package for mankind. If you take it all, how do others who are not Muslims access it. Nigerian Christians are no better; they also think Christianity is theirs. So, every little thing goes for war between these two groups.
In conclusion, If Aisha is a follow-follow Christian like we have millions of follow-follow Muslims, she doesn’t need to change anything outside what we have seen of her. It is her right to be what she wants to be. If she is a Muslim, she must show respect for the teachings of Islam. She should change.
Points to note:
* Aisha wasn’t appointed to represent any religion, ethnic, social or corporate group; she was nominated based on merit. However, her new high profile demands thorough accountability to any group she belongs. Public trust is not a private thing.
* Her dressing has nothing to do with her work or lack of it.
* Those who demand that she obey the rules of what she professes are right on the ground that she says she is one of them ( I have long concluded that she is not a muslim). Methinks, she prefers Christianity which her mother used to be. If this is it, Muslims should better retire from their queries. I think this shouldn’t be a problem to do.
* Aisha is not the only one from her mother’s side born to Alhaji Umaru Ndanusa. So, if this is what worries you most then you have three or more Aishas to worry about from Ndanusa family if they have chosen the way of the first.
* Perhaps, we should worry more about Nigerian children who stay abroad like Aisha, excelling faster than those here only for them to come and access high offices against those labouring endlessly with little to show for it at home.
* Lastly, I am trying to help her husband; the man we simply call GENERAL gather his thoughts on the whole saga, her dad as well. GENERAL is a complete disciplinarian, how did this escape him?”
BM Zdukogi wrote.